Ending a relationship.

It was not very long back during my stay in the US that I toyed with the idea of "relationships coming to an end". Given my life back in India, I did go from one place to another, one school to another, one tuition class to another. But none of these so called "relocations" ever entailed me to end a relationship with old friends, while starting to make some new ones.

Like for example, my first friends' circle was with my people from Tata Colony. Amazing friends they all are. Ofcourse, I have not spoken to some of them in more than five years now. But still, they ARE my friends! Same with people from school. And then my friends' circle in BTS-MTS (some really characterbuilding friendships I had). The Junior college junta, and the most recent VESIT public. All of these are well in the past, but I never really counted them out of my friends list! Although I am pretty sure I might never see or even hear from many of them ever again!


And most of these friendships were gems for me. Everyone of them taught me something, helped me grow various dimensions of my personality and the people were a blast to hang out with. I play the guitar thanks to Naval, I excel in studies thanks to all those nerd friends at BTS-MTS, I developed good leadership skills thanks to people in school, I was good at most sports in Tata colony thanks to my friends there, I developed a great sense of humor thanks to people in VESIT, and the list could keep continuing if I thought more about it.

So there are three questions that arise in front of me here. The first is, are all those beutiful relationships over?? Am I simply in denial when I still hope that they will resurface later in my life again and I can relive their glory?? The second question is, if these friendships were such golden phases, why haven't I ever tried to hold these things back? What have I ever done to make sure I don't lose track of all this affection that people showed for me in the past? And lastly, assuming the age old fact that good things never last forever, even if these relationships had to end for any particular and justified reasons, there is no good reason for them to end so abruptly!!!

All this thinking has only led me to the conclusion that I need to start ending my relationships gracefully, before they drown into the deep lull of nothingness over time.